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2009: Our Year in Review

I abandoned the idea of a family Christmas newsletter years ago when I started this family blog. It seemed redundant since I was posting news throughout the year. But I think it’s worthwhile looking back through the year and encapsulating some of the highlights. So… here’s a snapshot of our 2009!

We started the year nearing the end of the first trimester of our fourth pregnancy. While we waited excitedly for the latest Roades baby girl to arrive, we had little time to sit and ruminate! I continued to enjoy my job as a social software consultant and trainer while Rebecca was busy at home raising the girls (while growing another!).

In April, Z turned four and we had a fun trip to the National Zoo with friends of ours. I launched mrmerlot.com to dovetail with my work as a social media consultant and trainer. If you are interested in technology, check it out!

We had a couple trips to visit family in Pennsylvania, then tapered off our travel as we headed into the final trimester. In June, R had her first dance recital and did wonderfully! She had no hesitation about being on the big stage and it was a great finale to a fun year of dance lessons for her.

In late June we welcomed the fourth princess to our castle: C Grace! Sweet as could be, we have enjoyed the last six months as we’ve seen her grow from a newborn to a charming baby who is always ready with a ear-to-ear smile!

As we looked back on the past few years, we laughed along with our moms as we realized that between us and our siblings, they experienced the “grandparents fast track“: “Grandma” went from 0-6 grandchildren in under six years while “Nana” went from 0-8 grandchildren in under six years. Whoa!

July and August had us singly focused on adjusting to a newborn (again) and understanding what a family of six looks like! My company gives me two paid weeks of paternal leave which I used along with a week of annual leave. That meant I took nearly the whole month of July off, so going back to work in August wasn’t easy!

As if a newborn wasn’t enough of a challenge, we made the decision to homeschool R for her Kindergarten year. Rebecca started the “school year” in September using the Sonlight curriculum. Since Beck and R had already put in about 18 months of work learning to read and write, both were off and running with the new material! R amazes me with her inquisitiveness and intelligence. I’m excited to see what she picks up in 2010 as a part of her curriculum and through her self-directed learning. Providing an environment in which she can explore on her own terms will be a challenge!

Meanwhile, Z started going through the same book we used with R (which we highly recommend) to begin learning to read and write. Both have really enjoyed the opportunity to learn at home and Beck and I have both been blessed by the chance to spend so much time with them. Z also began dance lessons in September, joining R who started her second year of dance. Both are enjoying their weekly lessons and have made friends with several of their classmates! Back-to-back classes certainly makes for busy Wednesday evenings!

While I often wonder what she’s thinking, I’ve found that Z enjoys simple things like just spending time with mom or dad. With Z, it’s all about the quiet moments. She has an unconventional sense of humor and often laughs at her own offbeat jokes, which often have dark overtones (including inheriting her mother’s tendency to laugh when others trip or crash into things…). She also loves to “mommy” M and is quick to come to her aid.

Meanwhile, M emerged from her grumpy phase (which she began around 6 months) to become an absolute joy. Her sense of humor and independent nature means there’s never a dull moment and we’re never surprised to see her singing a song she made up, “nursing” her baby doll, or doing something else hilarious. Her vocabulary is still rather limited, but she makes up for it with her bubbly personality, quick wit, and charm! She also managed to master the potty – after a few days suffering through constant accidents, she suddenly “got it” and practically ditched diapers overnight!

We ended the year with the opportunity to have a mini adult-only vacation - only the second time we’ve done so in the last six years. Thanks to Rebecca’s mom who stayed with the kids overnight, we spent a couple days doing “grown up” things in downtown D.C. This included the International Spy Museum (including “Operation Spy”) and dinner at the Marrakesh (a traditional Moroccan restaurant), and a night at a hotel in Dupont Circle (see my reviews on Yelp). We also saw Avatar in 3D, one of the better movies we’ve seen this year. It was a nice getaway!

To a one, we have been incredibly blessed as a family in 2009 and I look forward to seeing what lies ahead in 2010!

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If only I had been able to learn history like this…

Do you remember anything from your high school history classes? How about college history courses? No, I don’t mean how boring they were (sorry, history fans), I mean actually remember content from those classes?

I’m one of those who dreaded history classes. It seemed as though no history teacher/professor I ever had could ever make the subject interesting. Almost as though they had lost all passion for the area. I feel like I was shortchanged when it comes to my education in that subject.

I’ve come to enjoy history more as I’ve gotten older. What I’ve found is that for any historical event/person/etc., I better understand the context (what else was going on at the time), the impact (based on current events), and the stories. In fact, through the magic of the Web, I often find myself re-learning things I should have learned in school using Wikipedia and other web sites to understand the state of the world today.

History is one of the subjects I’m passionate about making interesting to our kids as we homeschool. In fact, I recently volunteered to review a new history text (intended for homeschoolers) called History of the Medieval World by Susan Wise Bauer. I’ve read some of Bauer’s other books and I have high expectations that this will be educational as well as fun to read. I won’t be able to post a review of the book until February due to the conditions of the review, so look for it then.

Hans Rosling, while technically a doctor and researcher, is to me, a fantastic history teacher. Rosling gave a presentation at TED India recently on the rise of India as an economic heavyweight. Setting aside the main point of his talk (which is to demonstrate when India will finally catch up to the US and Britain), Rosling uses visualizations in a way that brings historical data to life. Instead of merely providing dry facts such as dates, people, and events, he rolls all of this into a highly entertaining and informative animation. I would love to see these incorporated into all history classes.

While you’re welcome to watch the entire 16-minute video, I’ve embedded a clip (2:46) below of the first time in the presentation that he uses the animated graphs. He also shares these animations on the gapminder.org web site where you can either hit play, or use the scrub bar to go at your own pace.

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A Busy End to Our Year!

Let me take some time and recap the highlights of the last part of 2008 – starting with late November – which were flitted by far too quickly…

Thanksgiving 2008 was unlike any we’ve ever experienced (and hopefully will never repeat). We woke the kids up well before normal, force-fed them all breakfast, and then braved out into the icy morning to watch Rebecca run in the Virginia Run Turkey Trot. We had been anxiously building up to this event for months as Rebecca went out on regular runs to train for this 5K run that is held right down the street from us. Despite the chance that I’ll suffer from reliving the memory, the timeline was approximately as follows:

runner-girlT -:30 We drop Rebecca off to sign in, meet up with her at the starting line, and then part company to find a suitable spot along the route.
T -:29 M begins to fuss due to the earliness, the Arctic conditions outside, and her cold symptoms.
T -:10 M’s wailing has the kids upset, strangers around us giving nasty glances, and me close to out of my mind.
T :00 We completely miss seeing Rebecca start the race and now are left to wait at least 30 minutes until she comes back around the loop.
T +:12 M is now completely out of her mind and inconsolable; we start the long, freezing hike back to the car. R and Z are justifiably disappointed, but understanding.
T +:25 Back in the car, M continues to scream for another 10 minutes, driving Z to break down in tears. When asked why she was crying, her response was “I don’t know!” I felt her pain.
T +:40 (approximately) Rebecca crosses the finish line, wondering why she didn’t see all her peeps along the route. Without her cell phone, she is unable to reach the rest of the family to find the car.
T +:50 Without other options (and unwilling to disturb a finally sleeping M), Adam decides to drive home and “see what happens”
T +:55 Mommy borrows a stranger’s cell phone and calls Daddy – for some reason, her message goes right to voicemail
T +1:00 Mommy borrows another cell phone and calls Daddy and gets through; naturally upset, she decides to simply brave the cold and walk home
T +2:00 Finally reunited, the whole family agrees to never, ever do that again! (caveat: unless accompanied by other friends who can assist and tag-team)

I must also state unequivocally that we were immensely proud of Rebecca’s accomplishment both to training and the race itself while continuing to be a wonderful full-time mommy and homemaker!

An Early Christmas

As has been our tradition for the past several years, we traveled to visit Adam’s family in PA a couple weeks prior to Christmas. His mom and stepdad put on quite a bash for the extended family and it’s fun for everyone to play games together and catch up. I still find it amusing that my oldest daughter and my youngest cousin are only a few years different in age – crazy!

R loses her first tooth

R loses her first tooth

During our visit, we experienced yet another “first” – R lost her first tooth! (forgive the slightly crazy looking photo, it was the best one we got shortly afterward). After waiting what seems like a year for it to fall out, R showed the family – at breakfast, no less – her tooth, which she had managed to spin completely around. Moving swiftly, Rebecca reached over and plucked it out before R even realized what was happening. To her delight, the Tooth Fairy (TF) found her even at Grandma’s (she must share the same magical GPS Santa has…) and left her a dollar along with a special note written on fairy stationary! We had a good laugh, too, when Z (in all seriousness) said that she hoped the TF “didn’t take any of my stuff.” HA! (we have no idea why both girls thought the TF was a klepto, but they both went to bed stating their suspicions that the TF would take more than just R’s tooth…)

During this trip, we all made a trip to see Grandpa Roades (Adam’s dad) who was in the hospital. About a month prior, he had suffered a stroke related to an artificial heart valve he’d had open-heart surgery for years before. He had never met Z or M and it had been quite a while since he’d seen R, so it was an awkward reunion at first. However, we ended up having a great time reconnecting and, since Adam’s sister and her family were able to make it as well, we were able to celebrate both his 60th birthday and the holidays all together. Grandpa has since had another open-heart surgery to fix the valve and he is recovering from that as well as working on rehabilitating from the stroke which left much of the left side of his body weakened.

the girls love christmas

the girls love christmas

Our Christmas travels over, we enjoyed camped out at home the rest of the Christmas season. The girls had a blast decorating the tree and simply anticipating Christmas morning. Of course, before we could celebrate that, we celebrate R’s fifth birthday on Christmas Eve! Keeping things low-key this year, we made it simply a family affair, which she seemed to appreciated…though she struggled to accept that a big party wasn’t forthcoming. We went to However, this past Sunday we brought a cake and some juice and celebrated a belated birthday with some of her friends after the first church service.

All in all, we had a wonderful 2008 and are looking forward to adventures in 2009, including our new addition due in June.

I hope you all had a blessed Christmas and a wonderful New Year’s and that you have started off 2009 positively!

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Stream of car-sciousness

VA plateThis was going to be an all-out rant on the stupid redneck who ticked me off on the commute in this morning. Taking inspiration from another blogger, I figured I would expose the jerk with the license plate to the left: Just because you drive a huge honkin’ Dodge pickup doesn’t mean that you own the road. And as I expect others to see the little fish on my car and hold me to a higher standard, I expect the same of you as you proudly display your law enforcement sticker. C’mon, man, try showing a little consideration next time.

I must apologize, though, for all those drivers that had to endure what I’m sure was a very obnoxious experience driving next to me on the way home as I blasted Pearl Jam at ear-splitting levels. After all, the weather was just perfect for rolling all the windows down, opening the sunroof, and blasting some nostalgic music.

Speaking of nostalgia, I had a major flashback of helping a college friend work through a break up one night. Piling into his tiny “Le Car” (make tinier by the fact that my overweight buddy filled more than his half of the car), we wound our way up the hills around Shippensburg at much higher-than-safe speeds blasting Jeremy and other 90s grunge. Nothing gets you over the blues than a high speed drive in a piece of junk car and music blasting out of crackly speakers on a cool night.  Ahh, college days…

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